went through abortion and divorce at the age of 24:
I was a very simple girl. Born to a service class conservative
and traditional family, in a small and a very beautiful
city in India, I never had to face much hardship in my childhood.
I had very loving and caring parents who provided me the
best education possible within their means. Academically
good, I got my bachelors degree in Engineering from a prestigious
college in India at the age of 21. Got job and I had hardly
worked for few months, my family started to find a boy for
me. After a couple of interviews in which I rejected some
candidates and some rejected me, I (apparently) found my
Mr. Right. He was working for an Indian company on H1-B
visa in U.S.
first divorce was a lot harder than my second: My first
divorce was a lot harder than my second. Probably because
we got married on the spur of the moment, when there was
a lot of passion and not much time to think about what getting
married meant. and we split up pretty early into it. like
a few days, i think. it just freaked us both out.
NRI Guy's perspective: Interview with an NRI Divorcee:
When Nisha Sharma brought her dowry-monger of a fiancé
to justice, she became media's favourite maiden. An icon
for young women, a case study for ladies' forums and the
torch-bearer of the Indian middleclass girl's cause.But
there are a few guys out there who do not take dowry and
never make the headlines.Like this young NRI software engineer
who gives Hyderabad Times an account (on the condition of
anonymity) of how his marriage ended in a disaster.
Life has just started for me: In the last 50+ years
I have never been alone. The now blissfully quiet home has
brought peace and harmony in my life. The inevitable sadness
of a divorce lingers with a question in mind as to what
more you could have done to avoid the situation. But a new
year has come with new hope.
there a happily ever after? The girl with the flowing
golden hair looks starry-eyed at the tall,dazzlingly handsome
and muscular man who in turn is gazing adoringly at her.
Locked in a passionate embrace, the man says to her, "My
love, I want to marry you!" The girl closes her eyes
in ecstasy at the fulfillment of her dream, and with great
joy replies, "Yes! Oh, yes!" They kiss.
Divorce: a daughter's perspective: I still shudder when
I hear a door slam or heavy foot steps from the floor above.
Although it has been 15 years since my mother divorced him,
my memories of growing up with an abusive father linger.
There are particular episodes that have been burned in my
memory. And then there are the countless, outbreaks of violence
that I have chosen to forget. There was the night he came
home to find my baby brother had scribbled on the orange,
plastic table cloth, and he held my brother's head by the
neck and forced him to lick off the embedded ball point
pen markings. Night after night he came home drunk; me,
my sister and two brothers would scamper, making sure not
to get caught in his way. There was no warning when he would
find us guilty of something that he disapproved of, there
was always another excuse to show us how angry he could
Green Maya - the fictionalized story of an Indian woman
who faced divorce in her mid-fifties.
Passing of a Marriage -- the practical importance of
keeping records. On a balmy summer evening, the news that
floated into my life changed it forever. My partner of ten
years and husband of less than a year had died in an accident.
The overwhelming reaction was disbelief. Of course, such
things happened to many people but why would it happen to
me? I had led such a comfortable, trauma-free life since
childhood. I thought I had made wise choices and did not
think that any hugely nasty event would mark my life.
Breaking up is hard to do
My children and divorce: I have to say, in my case,
I was extremely lucky with the way my children have handled
the break-up. admittedly, we had been spending a lot of
time apart already. and he has made an active effort - stopping
by and putting them to bed, etc., to stay in their lives.